Renn just passed her first year anniversary as a breast cancer blogger. In this post she honors a fellow traveler whose journey had recently comes to its end. Renn writes at The ‘Big C’ and Me
Another bright light has been extinguished by breast cancer.
Mary (aka MBJ on BCO) has died.
Doctors gave her four months. She was gone in six weeks. Her passing has left the online breast cancer community at a loss for words.
Cancer is some scary sh*t.
I feel a need to honor this lovely woman who was so generous in spirit and insight; who always had a kind word to spare no matter where you found yourself on the breast cancer path; who so readily shared her own pain in the hopes that it might help others. And she helped so many others.
Mary was just two years out from her initial breast cancer diagnosis when she developed constant shoulder and arm pain. Several doctors told her she had a frozen shoulder; another said she had nerve damage. Mary herself suspected that maybe she tore a muscle or ligament. She received cortisone shots and some physical therapy, but the pain never went away.
Mary was also uninsured. She waited months for an MRI appointment (which, ironically, is tomorrow). When she was finally (correctly) diagnosed in early February (yes, just last month), doctors sent her home with hospice. She died six weeks later. She never had a chance. But you do.
How can we honor her life? By listening to our bodies, speaking out on behalf of our discomfort, and not taking no (or “I don’t know”) for an answer.
And listen to your gut. If what you are hearing from a health care professional doesn’t sit well with you, keep shopping — until you hear something that does.
R.I.P. Mary. (To hear her lovely singing voice, visit the website her husband created for her here.)