Over the past week we have had the opportunity to look at different reflections about what the holidays can mean for those of us actively involved in our battle with cancer. We have witnessed the grace and suffering of those left behind. As we enter this new year of 2011, I wanted to highlight the optimism that can greet a new year of new beginnings. Our guest today is a twenty-one year old ovarian cancer survivor who blogs with beauty and commitment at If Cancer Was Easy, They’d Call It Your Mom: My Journey with Ovarian Cancer
And from this, I realized something important. I said to myself, “You have a decision to make.” Each decision makes all the difference… and it trickles down, from one to the next, and so on and so on.
You can pretend like you don’t have cancer, or you can admit it.
You can go through the motions or understand what’s really going on.
You can run from it or stand your ground, come rain or shine.
You can stay in bed, or live your life.
You can live with the “label”, or break the mold.
I have cancer. I know what’s really going on. I’m standing my ground, rain or shine. I’m getting out of bed everyday and living life. I’m breaking that damn mold and I’m fighting like hell. I’m giving it everything I’ve got. I’m doing it, trying so hard not to complain. (That one was my toughie). I accept what’s going on… I know about the time I’m working with. I absolutely enjoy the little things. I do everything I can to be happy. I am finally accepting side effects. I am myself. I am ME. Cancer does not define me.
It may feel like I haven’t accepted everything just yet, but I feel like as huge of a learning experience as this is, I can’t ever fully accept everything. It is a journey. You gain different things from the trip, and I’m picking up my tokens, my souvenirs, my charms as Sunshine might call them. I’m not letting them weigh me down, necessarily. I am making them a part of me. After all, I’ve taken everything else and made it a part of me, why not these things?
“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race” –Calvin Coolidge quotes
“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”— Harriet Beecher Stowe