I am happy to be able to return this week with an excellent Guest Post after missing the opportunity last week. Again it never takes me long to locate a suitable candidate. Our last Guest Post was rather sad. And while there is inherent sadness in this week’s post, it is overall rather affirmative. Rick Possert Jr. writes in his aptly titled blog Why Her and Not Me? about the loss of his late wife, Rachel. In this post he talks about faith and lessons learned from his time with Rachel.
Let’s see. It has been a at least a couple of months since I have posted on here. That doesn’t mean I haven’t wanted to. I just didn’t have the inspiration to actually write an entire entry. The things I have been through in the past few months have all together been some of the most refreshing, spiritual, fulfilling, meaningful, and most of all needed things I’ve experienced in years. You all know what happened five months ago. You all have seen the transformation in my tone, my personality, and my faith. What could possibly be so inspirational that it takes a human being and changes them so drastically (in a good way)?
As I have wrote in the blog before, the support of literally thousands of people is one of the things that never ceases to amaze me. Now that I have run the gamut of pain, anguish, sadness, etc., and seen how everyone was there for me, I now have seen how everyone responds to those who have gone through what I have. It’s like a waterfall. Water keeps falling over the edge, because of gravity, yet it is beautiful. People, without thinking, jump into the act of supporting, consoling, loving someone who needs it. The numero uno most important thing I think God has blessed us with as humans is LOVE. When we start losing our faith, what should we do? How can we get it back? When we are surrounded by hate, death, sin, illness, etc., how can we have faith?
Have you looked in the eyes of your loved one(s) lately? Your children, your husband or wife, your parents, your siblings, your friends? When is the last time you heard the words “I Love You”, coming out of their mouth or yours? Have you experienced unconditional love? I have. I don’t always need to hear it to know it is there. It’s nice, of course, to hear the words, but they are only words. Think about when you were sad for whatever reason, and someone said, “Hey, you okay? You want to talk about it”? Think about the last time you were upset; a funeral, the ending of a relationship, a big move to another city, a lost job…did you have someone offer to help? Did anyone come and hug you or try to make you feel better with a joke or a nice comment? My friends, all of the above is love. We may not be thinking we are giving love to others by doing those simple things, but we are. We inspire each other so much without even knowing it. Isn’t that beautiful?
I had a few talks with some good friends on faith. I have also been deep in discussion with a few friends on how to work through problems in your relationships. I always striven for my marriage to Rachel to be inspirational to others. I wanted people to look at how our relationship was and to try and emulate it. Well, of course, that is something now that can only be done by people reading about how we were; of course the folks who have known us throughout or lives and relationship can use their memories of our marriage for guidance. I learned some important things in life through my time on Earth with Rach. I learned that while walking forward you should never turn your back and look behind you, and you should never try and sprint ahead too far into the future. Live in the present and pace yourself. Don’t try to hurry through the bad times by looking at the end of them; focus on making the bad times good. Time goes fast when we are having fun because we are not focusing on the end of them. Don’t keep score. Don’t count how many bad things you have done or what your partner has done. Wipe the board clean every day. God has done that for us.
I know sometimes life can be hard. I of all people know that. But, we have so much around us to lean on. We have so much around us to inspire us. We have so many around to be there for us. Use each other when you need to. I’m here for every last one of you. I pray I can inspire each of you like you inspire me.
from: Why Her and Not Me?